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Comment on I got a little upset yesterday… by bikerchick57

bikerchick57 — Wed, 22 May 2013 14:28:06 +0000

I thought your post of Facebook yesterday was totally appropriate regardless of the tragedy in Moore. There are many people looking for work or a way to make extra cash every minute of every day. It’s a fact of life today. I would be doing the same as you if I couldn’t buy a sandwich. I didn’t answer your FB post because I wasn’t sure if I’d pay the $5 or not. I’m having a hard time keeping up with what’s on my Nook, the books I have, and reading all of the blogs I love to follow. It’s not a matter of the $5, it’s a matter of time. There’s not enough time in the day and like right now, I should be doing other things than sitting on my computer reading, writing a blog and posting comments. Which means I have to get off here and get back to work.

Comment on Grow Garden Grow! by TomBoy

TomBoy — Wed, 22 May 2013 02:13:09 +0000

I ate at a local burger franchise tonight with my son and workout partner… That combined with two beers and homemade–yet still partially processed–queso during the lunch time has made me feel rather crummy. Gonna do my Day C and then drink whey protein. Maybe that will right my wrongs today! Love your blog.

Comment on How do you see yourself? by jennpower

jennpower — Tue, 21 May 2013 18:33:16 +0000

Yeah. That’s why I gave up trying to “understand myself” and just be me.

Comment on How do you see yourself? by sophist6

sophist6 — Tue, 21 May 2013 18:31:53 +0000

Jenn, I see value in your thoughts and in all honestly I wish I didn’t have the need to define myself at all. I really wish I could ‘just be’. In some ways I do that, but in many ways I don’t. I want to understand myself, my desires, my motivations, my beliefs. I don’t feel I need to define them or label them, I just want to understand them. LOL It’s complicated isn’t it?

Comment on How do you see yourself? by jennpower

jennpower — Tue, 21 May 2013 16:17:15 +0000

What I meant was that we don’t define ourselves- we can’t define ourselves because humans are complicated. Others may define ourselves, but that’s because they don’t see us in our entirety. It makes it hard to see yourself- because we’re not pictures that can be defined and we don’t have some ideology hidden in us like in books. We’re human- We’re ourselves. We should just “live life” instead of trying to look at it, and how we fit into it.

Comment on How do you see yourself? by stephscohen

stephscohen — Tue, 21 May 2013 16:07:24 +0000

Jennpower, I have to agree with you. I too have had a very difficult time finding myself. I just came from my therapist and the entire hour was spent on me talking about just how much I hate being misunderstood. I have experienced being misunderstood in one way or another my entire life; even and especially with my family. I feel like I have always lived someone else’s life.
When I was young I was living the life of my Mother, Father and siblings. As I grew that continued until I got into my first “serious” relationship at the ripe old age of fifteen. We moved in together when I was only sixteen and I feel I have been living his life ever since.
I am forty now and that man and I have not been in a “relationship” for over ten years and yet I still find myself making choices based on his needs or his feelings. And I do it with anyone I care about. I am constantly guilty of putting others needs ahead of my own.
I have spent my whole life in relationships and I take full responsibility for being the type of person who always takes on others’ issues and the type of person who always wants to help/fix people. I don’t know that I have ever really lived my OWN life.
Forty years of going by what others think, feel, need or want has left me so unsure of myself that I don’t recognize myself the majority of the time. I am in a daily battle to figure it out, to figure me out.

Comment on How do you see yourself? by bikerchick57

bikerchick57 — Tue, 21 May 2013 15:57:02 +0000

That’s OK if you laugh. I laugh every time I can’t control myself from compulsively straightening out the paper in our 20 mail trays at work. It’s so silly! The answer is a resounding YES, I focus on my strengths – a reason why I started writing my blog (humor) and a reason why my calendar is always full (people). The honesty thing has always been in my life. I once got two candy bars out of a vending machine for the price of one, so I dug in my purse and put the money in the vending machine for the 2nd candy bar. Dishonesty in any form makes me feel icky.

Comment on How do you see yourself? by sophist6

sophist6 — Tue, 21 May 2013 15:10:01 +0000

I don’t know if you have a therapist or not – but this answer would fill at least a couple of hours. I used to say that, “I am just me” but in learning what makes me who I am is what I am learning to define. We are made up of so many parts that defining ourselves is one of the hardest things we will ever do in our lives. We can walk blindly through life or we can be active participants in it. The choice is individual of course – but I have found that examining why I am the way I am has led me to incredible insights and has made me a better person.

Comment on How do you see yourself? by sophist6

sophist6 — Tue, 21 May 2013 15:05:01 +0000

I don’t mean to laugh at your “things you don’t like about yourself” part – but I laugh because we are the same. It helps sometimes to know you aren’t alone in your dysfunction – if that is really what it is. Co-Dependent; we are ALL co-dependent in one way or another. OCD – I think we all have things that drive us nuts that don’t really matter to anyone else but ourselves. Attention deficit – can you blame us? There are too many things to pay attention to and some of us try to pay attention to EVERYTHING.

As for your strengths – do you focus on those more or your weaknesses? I think that is the key to a happy life. If we can focus on our strengths and nurture them, our weaknesses have less power over us. Everyone has a healthy combination of both but it is what we nurture that defines us.

As far as what you would change – you have an easy one. I am lazy too. I don’t think that kindness comes easily – we have to work at that as much as we work on apathy. There is always someone in need of kindness and that is the easiest thing we can do for others. Next time you are at the grocery store, pay attention to hose around you. If you watch there will be someone who doesn’t know what aisle the peanut butter is in – help them find it. The homeless guy in front of the coffee shop – buy him a cup of coffee. We have more opportunity for kindness than we realize. Sometimes we just have to look for them and be brave enough to act on it.